What a year right? With all the terrible things going on in the world, one starts to believe that this has been the worst year ever. As this wouldn’t have been enough already, many countries have decided to make a second lockdown in order to fight against the Corona cases.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated or scared, I can assure you that you are not alone. This situation is really challenging, both emotionally and mentally, for the majority of people.
I’m writing this blog hoping to help you to cope with this craziness.
First, it’s important to always keep in mind that our words (spoken or thought) are super important. What we say directly impacts how we feel. For example, when you think about a certain meal, you will notice that you will start to crave it shortly afterwards and even feel a little hunger, even though you might have just eaten.
The same goes for our thoughts about a certain situation. When you are thinking about something embarrassing, your cheeks might flush and when you are thinking about something stressful, you might notice some tension in your body. I’m sure you have already experienced what I’m talking about, so you will understand how important it is to choose your words wisely.
I’m not saying that you should just ignore the world outside and live in a pink bubble, pretending that nothing has changed…no, this would mean to deny reality… what I want you to do is to change the meaning of your reality. Instead of thinking “oh no! I’m locked up again!” you could think “well.. I’m not actually locked.. I can still go outside to go shopping and go for a walk whenever I want to” or maybe “I’m not locked- I’m safe”, or even “How good that I don’t need to go outside today, it’s freezing cold!”. With changing a few words you can prevent your body from experiencing stress or discomfort. Over time your will notice that you feel calmer and happier.
In an interview, Marisa Peer (a brilliant psychotherapist) said, that we have 3 survival instincts when we feel in danger. We either fight, flee or freeze. Her advice is to replace freeze with flow. So! If you cannot fight or flee, then FLOW! Make the best out of the situation!
If you cannot go outside, well then make it cosy inside! Especially in these times before Christmas, you can finally decorate your home with all the crazy details that you always imagined but never had time to! Why not start decorating now? Turn on some Christmas music, bake cookies (if you suck at baking as I do, maybe it’s finally time to learn this skill :D), get comfy, read books!
One last tip! Make a challenge with your friends. Whenever you talk to them make it a rule to prohibit to talk about negative things for the first hour or so. I actually did this challenge during the first lockdown with a friend of mine. In the beginning, it was soooo hard to find any other topics than the pandemic but after a couple of minutes, we (surprisingly) found so many other things to talk about and had a really awesome time together! We both felt kind of freed and happy afterwards. Just give it a try! 🙂
And always remember: “If you can’t change something, you can at least change what it means to you!”
PS: In case you have any questions, you are more than welcome to message me at any time at firstname.lastname@example.org
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